3.5.07

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Happy 19th Birthday!

I was drooling at my sent messages when I saw this. My Lil Sis is celebrating her birthday today and I thought of posting this to my blog as a reminder that I can still write a decent letter to her hehe.

Eyi,

Hi Sis.

I wrote this letter a few minutes ago thinking that I should conversed to you more seriously - brother to sister. Well, actually, I just wanted AGAIN to give you a long sermon...hehe. No, honestly, I really need to talk to you about, you know, the family - your kuyas, Papa - and what might be in store for you after all these hardships in life.

When Nanay passed away, we all know that our interdependence to each other needed to become more up-tuned. This is quite difficult for us since we haven't had a single good conversation within our family. Well, between us and Nanay, I know there are several we can site. But for Papa to us, I'm pretty sure there is mere. Unfortunately, Nanay passed earlier than we expected. Life has been boring without her. She constantly revered the importance of fun in the family. An epitome of a good-natured mom that she was, she would often lend hands to people who are in need as we are. She chose to do selfless acts towards people whom she met along her daily routine of selling puto. From the palaboys that she religiously share some of her puto, to Rowena, the teenage orphan, whom she took in for several weeks. She has clearly made her choices. I firmly thought that she won in life inspite of her dying young.

Remember the time when we receive the news that you have cancer? I was devastated that day. We have no money, no Nanay, no any means of saving you from this lethal threat. I pity us. I wanted to curse HIM but I really can't. On that very same day, I thought I NEED TO STOP BEING EMOTIONAL. I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING. I HAVE TO FIND WAYS. Fortunately, I found angels at the Kythe Foundation East Avenue Medical Center. In less than an hour of interview, they immediately advised you for monthly chemotherapy sessions with free medicines and counseling. Though it was hard for me to see you suffering from the after-session treatments, I know that you are stronger than the usual teens. You managed to pursue schooling inspite of your falling hair. You have proven to everyone that YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING like normal students can. And now, as I remember those days when you were ill, I salute you. I am very proud to have such a vibrant and patient sister.

It may be a harsh reality that I needed to be a Kuya. Not that I don't want it to be that way but it's because I do not have a choice...That's what I thought of years ago, before I realized that life is full of choices. Imagine everyday we make hundreds of choices. Everyday we suffer ourselves with decisions that we know we're culpable of regretting after. More often than not, we do like to have wise choices moreso better choices. However we want our plans to be great, several choices has to be made. As kuya, I can be over-protective. Ok I'll change that, I am over-protective. It is my nature to not let others perceive us as siblings who are constantly torn amongst themselves for reasons of inept attitudes or for having minimal parental guidance while growing. Gearing you, and your brothers to the best possible life has been an ultimate pursuit. I would have gone to places to progress my career but I chose to stay. More important than anything else for me is my family - you, Papa and your brothers.

I hope that you will continue striving to be a good nurse. There may be huge, unexpected obstacles as you drift, but I know, easily you can win over anything that blocks your way. Keep your head up high Yi.

Salve up!

Big Bro

19 comments:

julai said...

Hi there U.T.O.Y, good day. I found your site at kwentong tambay..I'm really touched with your letter for your sister..It's very sweet. Your siblings are lucky to have a kuya like you..

U.T.O.Y said...

that's what kuyas are for...kung may kuya ka I know he'll do the same kahit hindi sa letter.

GOD I miss Bohol....

Ai Dihayco said...

You have a big heart for everyone..i could see that. HOw i wish I have a kuya like you..hmmm..the letter you wrote for your sis really touched me. U deserve the great blessings in the world. Keep smilin!

U.T.O.Y said...

hopefully she'll graduate. after that we'll see what will happen. she'll be transferring to canada if she passes all exams required by their govt...sana tuloy tuloy ang successes nya...I will support her all through out...

salamt for gaian dropping by....

julai said...

Wala po akong kuya,how i wish meron nga sana..ahehhe.i'm d eldest. THanks for visiting my blog at sorry di mo na intindihan ang nakasulay,nag bisaya kasi ako..ahehhe..pasensya na.have a nice day.

nakaka miss nga ang Bohol..marami pa namang fiesta ngayon..heheheh

auee said...

That's one touching piece... Your sister is brave & very lucky to have survived Cancer. It must have terrifying for all of you.

Being the oldest really counts for big responsibilities in Pinas 'no? I'm glad you didn't runaway from your "duties" & I'm sure your siblings appreciate all your help. Sermon now & then, it comes with the territory. I still get it from my ate!

U.T.O.Y said...

ah ala ka pala kuya...sayang me kakulitan ka sana heheh

U.T.O.Y said...

thanks auee...yes it's a perfect choice not to go to places at the expense of the fam...

god bless auee

jhenny said...

you are such a nice kuya.. and i admire you for being so brave :) i am an ate myself and i do understand it very well... that ates and kuyas are really responsible with their siblings.. you've been through alot and i hope you still keep on fighting thru the battles of life... your little sister is such a lucky girl for having you as a kuya..

happy birthday kay sister mo :)

.. also thanks for the visit... bisi-bisita ka lang ulet ;)

Anonymous said...

aww... ang sweet naman. ka-age na kami ng baby sister mo! :) thanks for the visit. would you like to exchange links with moi?

Anonymous said...

wow ang sweet naman. happy bday to ur lil sis then. God bless!

U.T.O.Y said...

i'll try to visit once in a while jhenny...ciao!

U.T.O.Y said...

yes she's 19 and of the same age as you are...

cge acey...i'll put you in my links..

U.T.O.Y said...

amgine thanks...di ako sweet minsan lang...hehe

Anonymous said...

Uliran ka talaga Geland.. :) Kudos to you and belated happy birthday to Eyi! :)

Anonymous said...

cute naman nya.. hehe

U.T.O.Y said...

salamat honnabel...

U.T.O.Y said...

cute ba enoc? paalam ka muna saken hehehe

Anonymous said...

aw kuya, ang payat ko nmn sa pix. hehe. anyways, thanks for everything kuya... i consider myself very blessed to have you as my kuya. thanks for your heartwarming messages. ngayon ko lang nabasa. shame on me. love you kuya. thanks sa LAHAT!


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